I did teach myself to shut off my own fear response.
[Explains a lot, doesn't it?]
But I can't in good conscience recommend that approach in all areas.
[He's not trying to make light of the situation, really, but it's easier than really digging into the emotional meat of what they're talking about. Of course he knows what it's like to wish you could just not feel. He spent a long time convincing himself he was a lot less prone to emotion than he was, just to try to escape it. Fat lot of good that did him.]
I think -- if I may offer an opinion -- that it's far more important to move forward toward a goal than it is to dwell on the past. As a man who has done a lot of dwelling, who shaped his life around it for a long time, it won't help you in the long run.
[If he hadn't spent forty years holding onto a stupid grudge things would have gone very differently. Dwelling on his own guilt over his mistakes is... different, he feels. He wouldn't call that dwelling so much as learning. He carries the mistakes he made with Bill very close to his heart to ensure he never, never makes them again.]
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Date: 2018-02-22 10:20 am (UTC)[Explains a lot, doesn't it?]
But I can't in good conscience recommend that approach in all areas.
[He's not trying to make light of the situation, really, but it's easier than really digging into the emotional meat of what they're talking about. Of course he knows what it's like to wish you could just not feel. He spent a long time convincing himself he was a lot less prone to emotion than he was, just to try to escape it. Fat lot of good that did him.]
I think -- if I may offer an opinion -- that it's far more important to move forward toward a goal than it is to dwell on the past. As a man who has done a lot of dwelling, who shaped his life around it for a long time, it won't help you in the long run.
[If he hadn't spent forty years holding onto a stupid grudge things would have gone very differently. Dwelling on his own guilt over his mistakes is... different, he feels. He wouldn't call that dwelling so much as learning. He carries the mistakes he made with Bill very close to his heart to ensure he never, never makes them again.]